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Weekly writing prompts for those living with debilitating illness, pain or trauma.</h2> 117 </div> 118 <div id="feedarea"> 119 <dl> 120 <dt><strong>Feeds:</strong></dt> 121 <dd> 122 123 </dd> 124 <dd> 125 126 </dd> 127 </dl> 128 </div> 129 <div id="headerimage"></div> 130 <div id="content"> 131 <div id="content-main"> 132 <div class="post-3441 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-expressive-writing category-healing-arts category-life-writing category-writing-as-a-way-of-healing category-writing-for-wellness category-writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors category-writing-to-heal" id="post-3441"> 133 <div class="posttitle"> 134 <h2>For the Week of September 25, 2017: The Power of Gratitude</h2> 135 <p class="postmetadata">September 25, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 136 </div> 137 <div class="entry"> 138 <p style="text-align:center;"><em>If the only prayer we say in our lifetime is âthank you,â that would suffice.â         </em>
138German philosopher, Meister Eckhart</p> 139 <p>In a time when we are constantly confronted with world crisesâthe devastation of Natureâs wrath, global warming, poverty, famine, war or terrorist attacks on innocent people, or living with a life- threatening illness like cancerâlife may seem overwhelming, and it can it be difficult to remember or feel gratitude. Yet every time I watch the evening news, thereâs a story, an example, of individuals whose lives have been turned upside down by crisis or tragedy expressing gratitude for whatever help, hope or unexpected acts of kindness they discover among the rubble of their lives. It always gives me pause for thoughtâa little nudge to not âlet the turkeysâ get me down.</p> 140 <p>Last night, tired from a busy weekend, I restlessly flipped through channel after channel of football, before settling on the final segments of CBSâs <em>60 Minutes</em>. Iâm glad I did. Senator John McCain, recently diagnosed with glioblastoma, one of the most virulent and deadly forms of brain cancer, was being interviewed by broadcast journalist, Leslie Stahl. McCain, a POW during the Vietnam War, is no stranger to suffering, yet his spirit and determinationâqualities that likely helped him survive the torture and hardship in a POW campâare as strong as ever.  When his doctors confirmed his cancer diagnosis, he responded by saying, <em> â</em>I understand. Now weâre going to do what we can, get the best doctors we can find and do the best we can.â And, at the same time, celebrate with gratitude a life well lived.â</p> 141 <p>McCain begins his day with chemotherapy and radiation before he goes to work in the Senate, explaining this to Stahl as being âmore energetic and more engaged as a result of this because I know that Iâve got to do everything I can to serve this country while I can.â The senator admitted that sometimes, yes, he feels fear about what may happen, but he reminds himself that he has experienced a great life and celebrates it with gratitude. âI am so grateful,â he remarked near the end of the interview, âevery night I am filled with gratitude.â</p> 142 <p>Gratitude, as McCain likely knows well, is good for us. A sizeable body of research has been conducted on the positive effects of gratitude, including its emotional and interpersonal benefits. For example, research suggests that a may have emotional and interpersonal benefits. Other studies show that those who keep gratitude journals on a weekly basis report fewer physical symptoms, feel better about their lives, and are generally more optimistic.  Grateful individuals also report more positive connections with others, satisfaction with their lives, and demonstrate a greater tendency towards empathy and generosity toward others  (McCullough et al, 2002- 2003).</p> 143 <p>ââ¦celebrate with gratitude for a life well lived.â McCainâs interview gave me pause. Iâve been hovering on the brink of feeling sorry for myself in the wake of a computer crash, the dull pain of an arthritic knee, and a host of bureaucratic frustrations as I re-settle in Toronto. Little by little, things continue to improve, but it doesnât take much some days to find anger, worry or frustration seeping into my thoughts and coloring my mood. I know how powerful gratitude is, but despite that, I am challenged, some days, to  consciously re-direct my thoughts to the things in life that keep me going, provide solace, joy and gratitude. In a world so fraught with divisiveness, crises, suffering and fear, gratitude becomes all the more important.</p> 144 <p style="text-align:center;"><em>In normal life we hardly realize how much more we receive than we give, and life cannot be rich without such gratitude. It is so easy to overestimate the importance of our own achievements compared with what we owe to the help of others.</em><br> 145 Dietrich Bonhoefferâ<em>Letters and Papers from Prison</em></p> 146 <p>Gratitude was on my mind last week when I met with the executive director of Torontoâs Gildaâs Club  just as it had been two weeks earlier, when I met with the executive director at Wellspring, a cancer support services organization in the greater Toronto area.  The services and support offered to those living with cancer encourages gratitudeâeven in the midst of something as devastating as cancer. I was reminded that while I have loved returning to this city, I have greatly missed the expressive writing groups I led for so many years in California, and I was grateful that both Toronto organizations welcomed me and having an opportunity for us to learn about one another.</p> 147 <p>As I described my  expressive writing programs, I recalled how many years earlier, when I first came to as a recently widowed single parent, how very raw and emotional I had been with grief. I began
147seeing a therapist, and as the sessions progressed, I cautiously began to bring a poem Iâd written âpoems that spoke to what I was feeling, struggling with, trying to resolve. A routine developed between us, one that would influence not only my healing, but the workshops I would later lead for cancer patients.  At the beginning of the session, I read the poem aloud then gave my therapist a copy. He never questioned nor attempt to interpret what I had written. Instead, he responded only with gratitude, just two words, âthank you,â that did more, in those vulnerable weeks, to build trust, self-affirmation and buoy my spirits than, perhaps, anything. To this day, when someone volunteers to read aloud in my writing groups, I respond immediately with those same two words, âthank you,â so powerful is the gift of gratitude to the human spirit.</p> 148 <p>So today, I focus on gratitude.  Iâm grateful for the first signs of autumn in the maple trees outside our windows, for the companionship and conversation with old friends over a Sunday lunch, for the latte my husband brought me from the cafe across the street this morning. But in particular, Iâm grateful I paused to stop flipping television channels and hear the interview with Senator McCain. It was a well-timed âlisten upâ to help me right my sagging mood at the end of a trying week.</p> 149 <p>Gratitude is infectious. Try it on for size today or this week if you find yourself slipping into self-pity or sorrow. Take a walk. Remember what you have that gives you joy. Pause at a tree, its colors turning in the first days of autumn. Remember to say those two simple words, âthank you,â to a loved one, the cashier at the market, the awkward teenager who suddenly remembers the lesson his parents have tried to teach him and opens the door to let an elder person pass through before him. âThank you.â Itâs a little infusion of gratitude. And when the world gets us down, itâs all the more important we stop and remember what we are grateful for.</p> 150 <p><em>This is what life does. It lets you walk up to<br> 151 the store to buy breakfast and the paperâ¦</em></p> 152 <p>Life lets you take the dog for a walk down to the<br> 153 pond, where whole generations of biological<br> 154 processes are boiling beneath the mudâ¦</p> 155 <p>â¦And then life lets you go home to think<br> 156 about all this. Which you do, for quite a long time.</p> 157 <p>Later, you wake up beside your old love, the one<br> 158 who never had any conditions, the one who waited<br> 159 you out. This is lifeâs way of letting you know that you are luckyâ¦</p> 160 <p> </p> 161 <p>(From:<em> âStarfish,â by Eleanor Lerman, in: Our Post-Soviet History Unfolds,</em> 2005)</p> 162 <p> </p> 163 <p><strong>Writing Suggestion:</strong></p> 164 <p>Is life getting you down? This week, take some time to write down one thing you are grateful for each morning. Thatâs it: just one. As the week progresses, return to those few sentences and reflect on the power of gratitude. Did anything change? If so, how? If not, explore that. Write a short poem or narrative on gratitude or the power of having someone say, âthank you.â</p> 165 </div> 166 <p class="post-info">Posted in <a href="/category/expressive-writing/" rel="category tag">expressive writing</a>, <a href="/category/healing-arts/" rel="category tag">healing arts</a>, <a href="/category/life-writing/" rel="category tag">life writing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/" rel="category tag">writing as a way of healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-for-wellness/" rel="category tag">writing for wellness</a>, <a href="/category/writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors/" rel="category tag">writing prompts for cancer survivors</a>, <a href="/category/writing-to-heal/" rel="category tag">writing to heal</a> | 3 Comments »</p> 167 </div> 168 <div class="post-3438 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry" id="post-3438"> 169 <div class="posttitle"> 170 <h2>Weekly posts now available Mondays</h2> 171 <p class="postmetadata">September 24, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 172 </div> 173 <div class="entry"> 174 <p>Dear Readers,</p> 175 <p>
175Beginning this week, <em>Writing Through Cancer</em> posts will be available every Monday. This reflects a shift in a decade of my posting routine, but with the advent of autumn and long overdue closer proximity to my family here in Toronto, the weekends are filled with activity and cherished family time. My blog posts will continue weekly, as always; just look for them on Monday mornings!</p> 176 <p>Warm wishes,</p> 177 <p>Sharon</p> 178 </div> 179 <p class="post-info">Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a Comment »</p> 180 </div> 181 <div class="post-3415 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-expressive-writing category-healing-arts category-life-writing category-music-and-healing category-writing-as-a-way-of-healing category-writing-for-wellness category-writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors" id="post-3415"> 182 <div class="posttitle"> 183 <h2>For the Week of September 17, 2017: âI Guess Thatâs Why They Call It the Bluesâ</h2> 184 <p class="postmetadata">September 17, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 185 </div> 186 <div class="entry"> 187 <p><em>Donât wish it away</em><br> 188 <em>Donât look at it like itâs forever</em><br> 189 <em>Between you and me I could honestly say</em><br> 190 <em>That things can only get better</em></p> 191 <p>(From: âI Guess Thatâs Why They Call it the Blues,â by Bernie Taupin; sung by Elton John, 1983)</p> 192 <p>It hasnât been the best week for me. Nine days ago, my computer crashed. Went kaput. Left me like an ex-lover in the middle of an afternoon. No warningâor rather, none that I noticed, so caught up in my âto-doâ lists that I gave the slower functioning of my machine barely a thought. Then it happened. Iâd had a great meeting with a Toronto cancer support services organization and sat down to follow-up with a thank-you and a short description of my expressive writing workshops. I turned on my computer. Nothing. I tried again, multiple times, and still, nothing. Shock, disbelief and panic followed in short order. And despite three days in the computer repair shop, I was still unable to access important files or my email contacts. Any action I took seemed to complicate an already complicated recovery process. Frustration, stress, lossâ¦all technology-related, which, in the greater scheme of things now seems trite, but by Tuesday, the turkeys had me down. I had a full blown case of the blues.</p> 193 <p>âI guess thatâs why they call it the bluesâ¦â I kept hearing Elton Johnâs voice in my head. I was stuck in the middle of the blues, but I wondered, why are those periods of feeling downhearted and depressed calledâthe blues?â I love blues music, and I never leave a live performance feeling down. Quite the contrary.  So I did some checking. Apparently âthe bluesâ originated with a 17th century English expression (âthe blue devilsâ) related to severe alcohol withdrawal, but over time, âthe bluesâ signaled a state of agitation and depression. Gradually, the blues turned into music expressing the singerâs passions and struggles.</p> 194 <p>Hereâs the thing: According to <em>Web MD,</em> âsooner or later, everyone gets the blues.â Itâs a fact of life. We all experience difficult experiences in our livesâloss, serious illness, financial hardship, the aftermath of natural disasters, and so much more. Itâs normal to feel sadness, grief, loneliness, or malaise during those times. And the majority of the time, we are able to bounce back, pick our lives and ourselves up and begin again.</p> 195 <p><em>Everyday, everyday I have the blues</em><br> 196 <em>Ooh everyday, everyday I have the blues</em></p> 197 <p>(âB.B. King, âEveryday I Have the Bluesâ)</p> 198 <p>But what if you donât bounce back? What if your feelings of sadness linger, are excessive, or interfere with your work, sleep, or even your recreation? Perhaps fatigue,worthlessness, or weight changes accompany your feelings of sadness. Thatâs more than âthe blues.â You may be experiencing major depression, a medical condition that goes beyond lifeâs ordinary ups and downs. According to <em>Web MD,</em> Almost 18.8 million American adults experience depression each year, and women are twice as likely as men to develop it. In those cases, professional help and treatment are key to recovery.</p> 199 <p>The blues are common in cancer. Dana Price, author of âBlock the Blues,â an article on the website, <em>Cancer Fighters Thrive,</em> says âconsidering the many concerns patients can face with cancer and related treatments: confronting mortality, managing financial stressors or job responsibilities, and the physical side effects of treatment and surgery trigger strong emotional responsesâones that may fall within the spectrum of anxiety and depression. Price notes that it is sometimes difficult for patients or caregivers to know if their âcancer bluesâ are normal or signs of a more serious depression and offers wisdom from Dr. Laura Sunn, psychiatrist at Cancer Treatment Centers of America® (CTCA) in Zion, Illinois. âItâs not unusual for people to have strong emotional responses,â Sunn says. âIn treating cancer patients, weâre aware that these responses may fall in the spectrum of anxiety and depression.â</p> 200 <p>Itâs no wonder, considering the many concerns patients can face with cancer and related treatment. Confronting mortality, managing financial stressors and job responsibilities, and coping with physical side effects of treatment can all be significant worries. âIf youâre suffering worry every day and losing sleep, this can lead to depression,â Sunn says.</p> 201 <p>When the worry and stress begin to affect your normal daily life, however, itâs time to seek professional help. .Left untreated, depression can be debilitating and, Sunn states, âresult in a loss of hope.â</p> 202 <p><em>You got to help me darlinâ</em><br> 203 <em>I canât do it all by myself</em><br> 204 <em>You got to help me, baby</em><br> 205 <em>I canât do it all by myself</em><br> 206 <em>You know if you donât help me darling</em><br> 207 <em>Iâll have to find myself somebody else</em></p> 208 <p>(Sonny Boy Williamson II, âHelp Meâ)</p> 209 <p>What can you do if youâre feeling sad and depressed? These tips offered by the <em>Canadian Cancer Society</em> are helpful to any of us who may be dealing with the blues, whether cancer-related or due to other upsetting or stressful experiences.  Here are steps you can take:</p> 210 <ul> 211 <li>Talk to family members or friends about these feelings or talk to someone who has had a similar experience.</li> 212 <li>Seek out positive people and events to keep your spirits up.</li> 213 <li>Eat well and be as physically active as possible. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood-boosters.</li> 214 <li>Try to relieve tension with yoga or meditation.</li> 215 <li>
215Look to your spiritual faith for comfort. Talk to a spiritual leader or clergy member for help in hard times.</li> 216 <li>Talk to your healthcare team or your family doctor. They can refer you to a mental health expert who specializes in treating depression.</li> 217 <li>Ask your doctor, psychiatrist or psychologist about medicine to treat depression.</li> 218 </ul> 219 <p>Well, as Amy Winehouse once said, âevery bad situation is a blues song waiting<br> 220 to happen.â Yes, even a computer crash. When the frustration overflowed yesterday afternoon, I knew it was time to stop. I shut the computer down, took a shower and belted out Elton Johnâs âI guess thatâs why they call it the blues.â The songâand my horrible rendition of itâhelped me rediscover my sense of humor. Later, my husband and I went out to a little jazz festival in Kensington Market, and as we stopped to hear the music, my trials with my computer malfunction became less important. We relaxed and enjoyed the music, and all the while, my blues began to fade. This morning, everything seemed much more manageable.</p> 221 <p><strong>Writing Suggestions:</strong></p> 222 <ul> 223 <li>Have you suffered from the blues? What triggered the feeling? What did you do to help yourself overcome them?</li> 224 <li>Strong emotions accompany any upsetting event in our lives. Write about a time that an unexpected event happened to you: cancer, job loss, sudden loss of a loved one, a sudden break-up with a partner, or another difficult life experience. Try to recall and describe what you were feeling. What helped you through the shock, grief and loss.</li> 225 <li>Was Winehouse right? Is every bad situation the material for a blues song? What do you think?</li> 226 </ul> 227 </div> 228 <p class="post-info">Posted in <a href="/category/expressive-writing/" rel="category tag">expressive writing</a>, <a href="/category/healing-arts/" rel="category tag">healing arts</a>, <a href="/category/life-writing/" rel="category tag">life writing</a>, <a href="/category/music-and-healing/" rel="category tag">music and healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/" rel="category tag">writing as a way of healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-for-wellness/" rel="category tag">writing for wellness</a>, <a href="/category/writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors/" rel="category tag">writing prompts for cancer survivors</a> | Leave a Comment »</p> 229 </div> 230 <div class="post-3411 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-expressive-writing category-healing-arts category-life-writing category-writing-as-a-way-of-healing category-writing-for-wellness" id="post-3411"> 231 <div class="posttitle"> 232 <h2>For the Week of September 10, 2017: Lost & Found</h2> 233 <p class="postmetadata">September 10, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 234 </div> 235 <div class="entry"> 236 <p><i> Dear Readers,</i></p> 237 <p><em>Apologies to you all as this week is a repost from 2016. However, given the circumstances that prompted me to return to earlier content, Iâm hoping youâll understand. I will say, however, that in the midst of the devastation in Texas over a week ago, and now, Hurricane Irma plowing northward through Florida, my loss seems trivial. But it has affected my ability to use my computer. On Friday afternoon, my computer crashed, and with it, not only contacts and folders of various important information, but over a decade of manuscriptsâunfinished stories and poemsâand, you guessed it, a body of work devoted to expressive writing and cancer that, as I write this today, has been only partly recovered. Given that, the topic of losing something and finding itâor having to re-invent itâseemed apropos. I hope that by next weekend, Iâll be fully operational once more. Thanks for understanding and following this weekly blog site.âSharon Bray</em></p> 238 <p style="text-align:center;"><strong>For the Week of September 10, 2017: Lost & Found</strong></p> 239 <p style="text-align:center;"><em>Death steals everything except our stories.â</em>Jim Harrison</p> 240 <p style="text-align:center;">(From: âLarsonâs Holstein Bull,â <em>In Search of Small Gods,</em> 2009)</p> 241 <p>Loss. Itâs something weâve been witnessing as natural disastersâhurricanes, floods, wildfireâtake toll on people and their lives. Loss is also often synonymous with cancerâthe loss of hair, parts of the body;
241 self-image, dreams, or loss of loved ones. In a world that seems to be dominated by losses, we feel overwhelmed and hopeless as we face a landscape defined by tragedy, sorrow and grief.</p> 242 <p><em>Before you know what kindness really is<br> 243 you must lose things,<br> 244 feel the future dissolve in a moment<br> 245 like salt in a weakened broth.<br> 246 What you held in your hand,<br> 247 what you counted and carefully saved,<br> 248 all this must go so you know<br> 249 how desolate the landscape can be<br> 250 between the regions of kindness.</em></p> 251 <p>âfrom âKindnessâ, by Naomi Shihab-Nye in <em>The Words Under The Words ©1994</em></p> 252 <p>When cancer strikes or you experience the kind of devastation suffered at the hands of Natureâs wrath, life, as you once knew it, is never the same afterward. The landscape between what Shihab-Nye calls the  âregions of kindness,â does seem desolate. What we took for granted seems like a distant memory. And for a time, we grieve, yes, but hope somehow finds a way back to us, solace is given, and in those small moments of kindness, we start to see our world differently, and find our way back to life and begin to heal.  As Shihab-Nye says,</p> 253 <p><em>Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymoreâ¦<br> 254 and then goes with you everywhere<br> 255 like a shadow or a friend.<br></em><br> 256 During times of loss and grief,when we least expect it, we discover kindness. We make  new friends, build new dreams, and discover gratitude for small gifts life offers us, ones we overlooked or barely noticed before. We find new facets of ourselves to explore, strength or resilience we never imagined possible. Perhaps we even discover we havenât lost as much as we thought. The kind of loss that comes from cancer or other serious illness is often fertile ground for new knowledge and understanding.</p> 257 <p>Writing helps us articulateâ even mournâwhat we have lost in the difficult chapters of life,  but it offers us much more. When we write, we have a blank page, an unblemished open space upon which to reclaim lost stories, create new ones, reclaim our voices and ourselves.  We discover new insights, new possibilities. Our words have the power to touch others. We find new realms of creativity we never realized we possessed. We find ourselves again.</p> 258 <p><strong>Writing Suggestions:</strong></p> 259 <p>I.  First, take a blank sheet of paper and list  all that you have lostâwhether important keepsakes, friendships, loved ones or physical attributes and abilities you had before cancer.</p> 260 <ul> 261 <li>Donât stop there. Turn the page over. Now list the acts of kindness that you remember, the ones that made a difference.And gave you hope, helped you rediscover what you thought your lost or helped you see things in a new light. Even, sometimes, helped you reinvent what you thought you lost into something new and even better. Explore what youâve lost <em>and</em> what youâve found.</li> 262 </ul> 263 <p>II. Using Jim Harrisonâs words, âdeath steals everything but our stories,â write about losing something or someone. What stories about that thing or person do you carry with you? Write one of them.</p> 264 </div> 265 <p class="post-info">Posted in <a href="/category/expressive-writing/" rel="category tag">expressive writing</a>, <a href="/category/healing-arts/" rel="category tag">healing arts</a>, <a href="/category/life-writing/" rel="category tag">life writing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/" rel="category tag">writing as a way of healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-for-wellness/" rel="category tag">writing for wellness</a> | 2 Comments »</p> 266 </div> 267 <div class="post-3291 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-expressive-writing category-healing-arts category-life-writing category-writing-as-a-way-of-healing category-writing-for-wellness category-writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors category-writing-to-heal" id="post-3291"> 268 <div class="posttitle"> 269 <h2>For the Week of September 3, 2017: Navigating the Process of Recovery</h2> 270 <p class="postmetadata">September 3, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 271 </div> 272 <div class="entry"> 273 <p style="margin:0 0 .0001pt;text-align:left;"><em>Pick yourself upâ¦</em></p> 274 <p style="margin:0 0 .0001pt;text-align:left;"><em>Take a deep breathâ¦</em></p> 275 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em>Dust yourself off                      </em></p> 276 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em>And start all over again.</em></p> 277 <p><em>Pick yourself upâ¦</em></p> 278 <p>(From âPick Yourself Up,â lyrics by Jerome Kern & Dorothy Fields)</p> 279 <p>These are the words from a song often played by my mother when I was a child, often when I suffered some youthful defeat. I can still hear Nat King Coleâs mellow tone
279s reminding us that we all encounter difficulties, but must find a way to go on:  âWill you remember the famous men/who had to fall to rise again/They picked themselves up/ Dust themselves off/and started all over again.â</p> 280 <p>Itâs easier said than done, as weâre reminded by the devastation suffered by thousands of Texans in the path of Hurricane Harvey this past week. Recovery, whether from natural disaster, trauma, addiction or cancer is no small feat. A look through the dictionary defines recovery as âa return to a normal state of health, mind or strength; the process of regaining possession or control of something stolen or lost.â And yet, so many aspects of our former lives, especially in the aftermath of a hurricane, tornado, fire, cancer or traumatic losses, might never be fully regained. How then can we understand the process of recovery?</p> 281 <p style="text-align:center;"><em>Right foot, left foot, right foot, breathe</em>.âAnne LaMott</p> 282 <p>My heart ached as I watched the news this week and witnessed the devastation caused by Hurricane Harvey. Itâs the worst hurricane to make landfall in the United States since the record-breaking 2005 hurricane season which included Katrina, Rita and Wilma (Source: <em>Wikipedia</em>). The physical destruction and economic losses are staggering, and it will take months, perhaps longer, for people to rebuild and recover. And yet, the speed of recovery matters. Because of the economic and emotional pain and deprivation suffered by families and communities, the effects of these natural disasters can be long-lasting.</p> 283 <p>Itâs not just the physical devastation of a disaster like Harvey.  The emotional costs after a natural disaster like a hurricane, flood, tornado or earthquake are great. People feel stunned and disoriented. Feelings are raw and unpredictable; repeated and vivid memories of the event can create physical responses such as rapid heartbeat, sleeplessness or loss of appetite. Interpersonal relationships can be strained. These emotional stresses can continue long after the event. Even in post-disaster rebuilding, people and communities do not resume âlife as it was before.â Lives are forever altered, and gradually, a ânew normalâ emerges.</p> 284 <p>Recovery has similar challenges, whether in the emotional suffering of survivors of natural disasters or individuals experiencing cancer, trauma and sudden, tragic loss . The process of recovery doesnât promise smooth sailing.  Whether a hurricane or cancer treatment and surgeries, physical symptoms like fatigue, weight changes, sleeplessness or change in appetite can accompany us during recovery, as Dana Jennings, a prostate cancer survivor and <em>New York Times</em> writer, described:</p> 285 <p><em>Iâm recovering well from an aggressive case of prostate cancer; I havenât had any treatment in months, and all my physical signposts of health are point in the right direction.</em></p> 286 <p><em>Still, Iâm depressed.â</em>Dana Jennings (âAfter Cancer, Ambushed by Depression<em>, NY Times,</em> Sept. 29, 2009)</p> 287 <p>He describes another aspect of recovery:  The troublesome physical symptoms during the process are often coupled with emotional responses: depression, guilt, anger, fear of recurrence, or the frustration of dealing with loved ones as you encounter a changed life or an altered body.  Whatever our new normal is going to be, it takes time, more time that we expect, and the process of getting there can be challenging.</p> 288 <p><em>Iâm exhausted, unfocused and tap my left foot a lot in agitation. I donât much want to go anywhereâ¦and some days I canât even bear the thought of picking up the phone or changing a lightbulbâ¦</em></p> 289 <p><em>Partly, I think, Iâm grieving for the person I was before I learned I had cancer. Mortality is no longer abstract, and a certain innocence has been lost.â</em>Dana Jennings</p> 290 <p>Recovery is a process that, like it or not,  happens slowly.  There are days, even weeks, you may feel youâll never make it through to a more ânormalâ life, yet research shows us that the majority of people are resilient and able, over time, to bounce back from tragedy.</p> 291 <p><em>And you come through. Itâs like having a broken leg that never heals perfectlyâthat still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp</em>.âAnne LaMott</p> 292 <p>How do you navigate through the process of recovery? The <a href="http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/recovering-disasters.aspx" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">American Psychological Association</a> offers advice, steps you can take to regain emotional well-being and a sense of control after a traumatic event like a natural disaster, sudden loss, or life threatening illness:</p> 293 <ul> 294 <li>Give yourself time to adjust. Itâs a difficult time in your life; allow yourself the time to mourn the losses youâve suffered.</li> 295 <li>Ask for support from people who care about you and who will listen and empathize. Social support is a critical component to any recovery, whether a natural disaster or a serious illness. Family and friends can help, so, perhaps, can a support group.</li> 296 <li>Communicate your experience. As Dana Jennings said in his 2009 article, âI believe in and trust in the healing power of the stories that we tell each other.â Talking with friends, keeping a journal or expressing yourself in another creative activity can be healing.</li> 297 <li>Find a local support group led by professionally trained and experienced professionals. The group discussion can help you realize you are not alone in how you feel and react.</li> 298 <li>Engage in healthy behaviors, like eating well balanced meals and getting plenty of rest.</li> 299 <li>Establish (or reestablish) your routines, like eating at regular times, sleeping and waking on a regular cycle, or engaging in daily exercise, for example.</li> 300 <li>Avoid making major life decisions. Big and important decisions are stressful enough on their own, and they are much harder to take on when you are recovering from disaster or serious illness.</li> 301 </ul> 302 <p>All of us experience some kind of life challenge, a tragedy, loss, serious illness or even a natural disaster in our lives. In their wake, we may feel as if our lives will never be the same. And itâs likely they wonât, because we will be changed by what has happened to us. Yet our lives will go on, and there may be lessons gained from the suffering.  Gail Caldwell summed up her lessons in her memoir of friendship and loss of a dear friend: âI know now that we never get over great losses; we absorb them, and they carve us into different, often kinder, creatures.â (<em>Letâs Take the Long Way Home: A Memoir of Friendship</em>, 2010).</p> 303 <p>We are changed by the difficult chapters in our lives, and in many ways, perhaps, for the better, as Caldwell suggessts.  I have often remarked how my encounter with cancer was so early and treatable, I felt like a âphony,â and refused the label of âsurvivor.â  I doubted I truly understood the emotional roller coaster so many cancer patients endured until later I collapsed on the pavement a few years later and was taken to the hospital by ambulance to be diagnosed with heart failure. For weeks afterward, my emotions were not only unpredictable, but colored by a fear of early mortality âsomething that crept into my thoughts without warning.  Iâd be in tears, lying awake with fear as my companion.  It took time and support from my doctors, family and friends to return to a ânormalâ way of living, but at the same time, I was learning more about emotional recovery that informed my practice with cancer patients and survivors.</p> 304 <p>During those first unsteady months, I came across a poem by Ellen Bass,  one that affected me so deeply, I framed it and hung over my desk. It served as a daily reminder that while my life had changed by the unexpected diagnosis and treatment for a weakened heart, I could take steps to lead a long and relatively healthy life.  Hereâs the poemâitâs one I often return to and read in my writing groups for cancer patients.</p> 305 <p><strong>The Thing Is</strong></p> 306 <p><em>to love life, to love it even</em><br> 307 <em>when you have no stomach for it</em><br> 308 <em>and everything youâve held dear</em><br> 309 <em>
309crumbles like burnt paper in your hands,</em><br> 310 <em>your throat filled with the silt of it.</em><br> 311 <em>When grief sits with you, its tropical heat</em><br> 312 <em>thickening the air, heavy as water</em><br> 313 <em>more fit for gills than lungs;</em><br> 314 <em>when grief weights you like your own flesh</em><br> 315 <em>only more of it, an obesity of grief,</em><br> 316 <em>you think, </em>How can a body withstand this?<br> 317 <em>Then you hold life like a face</em><br> 318 <em>between your palms, a plain face,</em><br> 319 <em>no charming smile, no violet eyes,</em><br> 320 <em>and you say, yes, I will take you</em><br> 321 <em>I will love you, again.</em></p> 322 <p>(By Ellen Bass, From <em>Mules of Love</em>. © 2002)</p> 323 <p><strong>Writing Suggestion:</strong></p> 324 <p><em>Yes, I will take you/I will love you again</em>. Try using Ellenâs words as the prompt to describe a time when your life was devastated or turned upside down by an unexpected loss, tragedy or illness. What helped you recover and heal from that event? What did you learn about yourself, and your life as a result of it?</p> 325 </div> 326 <p class="post-info">Posted in <a href="/category/expressive-writing/" rel="category tag">expressive writing</a>, <a href="/category/healing-arts/" rel="category tag">healing arts</a>, <a href="/category/life-writing/" rel="category tag">life writing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/" rel="category tag">writing as a way of healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-for-wellness/" rel="category tag">writing for wellness</a>, <a href="/category/writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors/" rel="category tag">writing prompts for cancer survivors</a>, <a href="/category/writing-to-heal/" rel="category tag">writing to heal</a> | 2 Comments »</p> 327 </div> 328 <div class="post-3257 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-expressive-writing category-healing-arts category-life-writing category-writing-and-nature category-writing-as-a-way-of-healing category-writing-for-wellness category-writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors category-writing-to-heal" id="post-3257"> 329 <div class="posttitle"> 330 <h2>For the Week of August 27, 2017: Where Hope Resides</h2> 331 <p class="postmetadata">August 27, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 332 </div> 333 <div class="entry"> 334 <p><em>âMy house sits on about 10-feet elevation so if the storm surge gets up to 12 feet itâs going to be a bit of a problem. If itâs 15 feet Iâll sit on the roof and surf my way into downtown Corpus. But Iâm hunkered down. Iâve got food. Iâve got water. If my power goes out Iâll eat whatâs in the fridge then eat stuff cold, out of a can. Iâm a Boy Scout, so Iâm prepared. I can ride this thing out</em>.â(Wade Walker, quoted in âHurricane Harvey is Scaring Everyone Away But These People,â by Alex Hannaford, Reuters, 08/26/17)</p> 335 <p>I rarely turn on the television news in the evening as I once did, unwilling to let the constant stream of negative newsâviolence, shootings, Washington politics, war and the sufferingâconsume my thoughts and mood. But I followed the news of Hurricane Harvey on Friday and again last night, full of heartache for the many hundreds of people who suffered so much devastation and loss. It will be days yet before the full extent of the damage will be assessed, but despite the losses, people are already coming together to help one another. Itâs that, in the midst of such sorrow and suffering, enables people find hope, something we witness again and again in the midst of tragedy and loss.</p> 336 <p>Hope is something we all need at so many different times in our lives. It plays a major role in our healing, whether from tragedy, loss or serious illness. Siddhartha Mukherjee, physician and author of the Pulitzer Prize winning <em>The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer (2011)</em> defined hope as a âvital organâ in a lecture he delivered nearly three years ago at University of California, San Diego. According to Mukherjee, hope gives cancer patients added life force. Is it any wonder then, that in the world of cancer, loss and suffering, hope might be one of the most powerful medicines we possess?</p> 337 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em>If a man die, it is because death</em></p> 338 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em>has first possessed his imagination.</em></p> 339 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em> </em>(William Carlos Williams, in Mukherjee, p.306).</p> 340 <p> </p> 341 <p>Hope is an expectation that something good can happen in the futureâand in the midst of suffering or sorrow, we sometimes forget that hope is there, waiting to be discovered in many different situations in our lives. Anne LaMottâs 2013 book, <em>Stitches</em><em>: A Handbook on Meaning</em><em>,</em> <em>
341Hope, and Repair,</em> illustrates how hope existsâeven in a world punctuated by vitriolic political discourse, frequent reports of random shootings, car bombs, wars, natural disasters, hunger or life-threatening disease. âHope is a conversation,â LaMott states. âWhat allows us to go on and find those small moments of goodness, are to be found in âattention, creation, love, <em>and</em>,â she adds with incomparable wit, âdessert.â</p> 342 <p>ââ¦<em>those small moments of goodness.â</em> Hope is what we experience in the embrace of neighbors and friends, helping one another in the wake of devastation from hurricanes and tornados. It is present in those acts of unexpected kindness from complete strangers. Red Cross volunteers from the Dakotas, Arizona and many other states are already heading to Texas to offer assistance, and many organizations, like Airbnb, food banksâ even diaper banks for those families with infants and toddlersâhave already sprang into action, all of these efforts so necessary and vital in re-igniting hope and healing.</p> 343 <p>Healing, which is sometimes simplified in the way we think of it, is more than medicine and treatments. Healing, in the truest sense of the word, is the process of âbecoming whole,â whether from a natural disaster or a cancer diagnosis. It is a multi-faceted process of transformation. There is a strong connection of mind and body in healing, and hope plays a central role.  <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24867106" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">In studies</a> exploring the impact of hope among cancer patients, researchers conclude that hope helps decrease patient anxiety and increase quality of life. Even among the terminally ill, hope is an essential resource. It helps us cope during times of intense physical and psychological distress.</p> 344 <p>Where can we find hope? Itâs present in test results that show a shrinking tumor or promising clinical trials of a new therapy; itâs hope thatâs ignited in those unexpected acts of kindness from strangers. Hope resides a childâs delight in finding a tree frog as he explores his own yard, in an infantâs first smile, a young woman offering her seat on the subway to an elderly person, or a bouquet of summer dandelions picked for a mother by her child. Hope waits to be discovered, like in springtime, when determined crocuses poke their heads through snow and ice at winterâs end or the brilliant explosion of color in autumn as mornings turn cool.</p> 345 <p>I know I sometimes have to stop and remember to look for those small moments of goodnessâof hopeâwhen I find my spirits sagging in the frustrations of daily life, human crises, or the constant thrum of divisive political discourse. Hope sometimes seems to get lost.  But I can find it if I only stop to notice: a hug from a grandchild, singing together with a random crowd of people at an evening of âChoir! Choir! Choir!â or walking my dog through the park and watching her unflagging hope of catching a squirrel (she never does, but she never gives up either). Itâs in these small moments of goodness and delight that reminds me of the resilience of the human spirit, and hope, then,â springs eternal.â</p> 346 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em>Tomorrow will be beautiful</em></p> 347 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;"><em>For tomorrow comes out of the lake.</em></p> 348 <p style="margin:0;margin-bottom:.0001pt;">(âHope,â by Emanuel Carnevali, in <em>Poetry: A Magazine of Verse,</em> 1921)</p> 349 <p> </p> 350 <p><strong>Writing Suggestions:</strong></p> 351 <ul> 352 <li>This week, consider hope. How would you define it if asked?</li> 353 <li>When have you felt as if you were losing hope? Why? What changed?</li> 354 <li>What helped you regain a sense hope?</li> 355 <li>When have you discovered hope in a âsmall moment of goodness? âDescribe it.</li> 356 </ul> 357 </div> 358 <p class="post-info">Posted in <a href="/category/expressive-writing/" rel="category tag">expressive writing</a>, <a href="/category/healing-arts/" rel="category tag">healing arts</a>, <a href="/category/life-writing/" rel="category tag">life writing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-and-nature/" rel="category tag">writing and nature</a>, <a href="/category/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/" rel="category tag">writing as a way of healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-for-wellness/" rel="category tag">writing for wellness</a>, <a href="/category/writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors/" rel="category tag">writing prompts for cancer survivors</a>, <a href="/category/writing-to-heal/" rel="category tag">writing to heal</a> | Leave a Comment »</p> 359 </div> 360 <div class="post-3252 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-expressive-writing category-healing-arts category-life-writing category-writing-as-a-way-of-healing category-writing-for-wellness category-writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors category-writing-to-heal" id="post-3252"> 361 <div class="posttitle"> 362 <h2>For the Week of August 20, 2017: Learning from Lifeâs Hard Knocks</h2> 363 <p class="postmetadata">August 20, 2017 by <a href="/author/sharonbray/" title="Posts by Sharon A. Bray, EdD">Sharon A. Bray, EdD</a></p> 364 </div> 365 <div class="entry"> 366 <p><em>There are many good reasons for writing that have nothing to do with being published. Writing is a powerful search mechanism, and one of its satisfactions is that it allows you to come to terms with your life narrative. It also allows you to work through some of lifeâs hardest knocksâloss, grief, illness, addiction, disappointment, failureâand to find understanding and solace.</em> âWilliam Zinsser (âHow to Write a Memoir,â In: <em>The American Scholar,</em> Spring 2006.)</p> 367 <p>Many years ago, I attended a summer creative writing workshop led by Pat Schneider, author of <em>Writing Alone and with Others.</em> Still numb and disbelieving from completing a seven-week regimen of radiation for early stage breast cancer, Iâd signed up for the workshop at the urging of a dear friend.</p> 368 <p>The first morning, I sat in a circle of men and women feeling a wave of uncertainty. Why was I there? What was I going to write? I half-listened as Pat introduced the workshop, my notebook open and waiting. âTell me something I canât forget.â she said, quoting a line from a Tess Gallagherâs poem, âEach Bird Walking,ââ in which the female narrator asks her lover to  âTell me⦠something I canât forgetâ (lines 50-51), and he responds by telling her how, as an adult man, he had the task of bathing his dying mother. (From: <em>Willingly</em>, 1984)</p> 369 <p><em>Tell me something I canât forget.</em> I drew a blank. What in my life might be memorable to another? I had only a few minutes to write, so I began with what was most accessible: childhood memories, humorous stories told and re-told at family gatherings. It would take nearly a full week of writing before I opened the door to my experience of cancer, and while I didnât think of myself as a cancer patient or survivor, so treatable was my diagnosis,  I began to understand how cancerâeven early stageâhad already altered my life. From that point on, my writing opened and deepened into the life experiences that had defined and changed me as a person.</p> 370 <p><em>âA patient is, at first, simply a storytellerâ¦a narrator of sufferingâa traveler who has visited the kingdom of the ill. To relieve an illness, one must begin, then, by unburdening its storyââ</em> Siddhartha Mukherjee, <em>The Emperor of Maladies: A Biography of Cancer (p.46).</em></p> 371 <p>âDecay is the beginning of all birth,â Kat Duff remarked in her book, <em>The Alchemy of Illness,</em> 2000). Duff was writing out of her experience with CFIDS (chronic fatigue and immune dysfunction. Writing out of a cancer diagnosis or any significant and painful life experience can help repair the damage done to your lives, to your sense of who you are, or explore the disrupted futures you might face.  Writing together, as those in my expressive writing groups do, allows you to tell your stories and share your experiences. We <em>are</em> our stories, and in the act of sharing them, we affirm our uniqueness and discover what is most meaningful. âI did not want my questions answered,â Arthur Frank wrote, describing, his illness in <em>At the Will of the Body</em>. âI wanted my experience shared.â In doing so, we remember who we were, <em>and</em> we learn who we are becoming. Cancerâor any significant or painful life eventâchanges us and, perhaps, has the capacity to âremodel us,â as poet Jane Hirshfield said, âfor some new fate.â</p> 372 <p><em> </em><em>In my experience, ill people become more themselves, as if once the excess was stripped away only the truest core of themselves remained⦠An insightful, experienced oncologist told me that cancer need not be a personâs whole book, only a chapter. Still, novelists know that some chapters inform all others. These are the chapters of your life that wallop you and teach you and bring you to tearsâ</em>Alice Hoffman (In: âSustained by Fiction While Facing Lifeâs Facts,â <em>NY Times,</em> August 2000.)</p> 373 <p>Hoffman wrote for during her ten months of cancer treatment to find âa way to make sense out of sorrow and loss.â Indeed, to be healing, writing demands you examine the tough chapters of your life, learn from them and take that knowledge into your present life. âRecovery is only worth as much as what you learn about the life youâre regaining,â sociologist and cancer survivor Arthur Frank wrote in his memoir, <em>At the Will of the Body.  </em>Itâs not just cancer that teaches us. As Hoffman notes, any momentous, challenging chapter of our lives has the potential for significant learning.</p> 374 <p style="text-align:center;"><em>I am the only one who can tell my story and say what it means.â</em> Dorothy  Allison</p> 375 <p style="text-align:left;">Writing as a way of healing isnât just a process of pouring your sorrow and pain on the page. To truly learn from your experiences requires something greater of youâthe courage, as Maxine Hong Kingston tells the war veterans who write with her, to âtell the truth.â Writing honestly requires courage. It may seem difficult at first, because you have to be willing to dive deep beneath the surface of the events to do some hard soul-searching.  You may begin with cancer, but invariably, you find yourself going deeper into your life and the events that shaped you, old wounds that have yet to heal to discover the truth of your experience.  Itâs then that the potential for healing begins.</p> 376 <p><em>To relieve an illness, one must begin, then, by unburdening its story.</em> Cancer is rarely the whole story, but it often leads us to the stories and experiences in our lives that matter most. What is the story <em>you</em> want to tell?</p> 377 <p><strong>Writing Suggestion:</strong></p> 378 <ul> 379 <li>Begin with Tess Gallagherâs line, âTell me something I canât forget,â and begin writing freely, without stopping for fifteen minutes.</li> 380 <li>When youâre finished, re-read it.  What stands out?  Use a yellow highlighter to mark those passages.</li> 381 <li>Use the one highlighted phrase or sentence that most grabs your attention and begin again.  How does the second version differ from the first?  What insights do you discover?</li> 382 </ul> 383 <p style="text-align:center;"><em style="text-align:center;">Write hard and clear about what hurts</em><span style="text-align:center;">. â Ernest Hemingway</span></p> 384 </div> 385 <p class="post-info">Posted in <a href="/category/expressive-writing/" rel="category tag">expressive writing</a>, <a href="/category/healing-arts/" rel="category tag">healing arts</a>, <a href="/category/life-writing/" rel="category tag">life writing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/" rel="category tag">writing as a way of healing</a>, <a href="/category/writing-for-wellness/" rel="category tag">writing for wellness</a>, <a href="/category/writing-prompts-for-cancer-survivors/" rel="category tag">writing prompts for cancer survivors</a>, <a href="/category/writing-to-heal/" rel="category tag">writing to heal</a> | Leave a Comment »</p> 386 </div> 387 <p align="center" class="posts-nav-link"><a href="/page/2/">Older Posts »</a></p> 388 </div> 389 <div id="sidebar"> 390 <ul> 391 <li class="sidebox"> 392 <h2><label for="subscribe-field">Subscribe to Weekly Posts!</label></h2> 393 394 </li> 395 <li class="sidebox"> 396 <h2></h2> 397 <div id="fb-root"></div> 398 <div class="fb-page" data-href="https://" data-width="200" data-height="130" data-hide-cover="false" data-show-facepile="false" data-show-posts="false"> 399 <div class="fb-xfbml-parse-ignore"> 400 <blockquote cite="https://"> 401 402 </blockquote> 403 </div> 404 </div> 405 </li> 406 <li class="sidebox"> 407 <h2>Most recent postings</h2> 408 <ul> 409 <li> 410 For the Week of September 25, 2017: The Power of Gratitude 411 </li> 412 <li> 413 Weekly posts now available Mondays 414 </li> 415 <li> 416 For the Week of September 17, 2017: âI Guess Thatâs Why They Call It the Bluesâ 417 </li> 418 </ul> 419 </li> 420 <li class="sidebox"> 421 <h2>A Year of Past Posts/Prompts</h2> 422<label class="screen-reader-text" for="archives-dropdown-4">A Year of Past Posts/Prompts</label> 423 </li> 424 </ul> 425 </div> 426 </div> 427 </div> 428 <div id="footer"> 429 <div id="colophon"> 430 <p><a href="https://wordpress.com/?ref=footer_blog" rel="nofollow">Blog at WordPress.com.</a></p> 431 <p>WPThemes.</p> 432<br class="clear"> 433 </div> 434 </div> 435 436 437 438 439 <div style="display:none"></div> 440 441 442 <div id="infinite-footer"> 443 <div class="container"> 444 <div class="blog-info"> 445 <a id="infinity-blog-title" href="/" rel="home">Writing Through Cancer</a> 446 </div> 447 <div class="blog-credits"> 448 <a href="https://wordpress.com/?ref=footer_blog" rel="nofollow">Blog at WordPress.com.</a> 449 </div> 450 </div> 451 </div> 452 <div id="carousel-reblog-box"> 453 454 <div class="arrow"></div> 455 </div> 456 <link rel="stylesheet" id="all-css-0-3" href="https://s1.wp.com/wp-content/mu-plugins/carou
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